I can remember as a little girl and as a young adult dreaming about that day when MR. RIGHT would waltz into my life, get down on one knee and ask that magical question...."Will You Marry Me?" Well, now that I'm a mature WOMAN, who loves where I am in my life.....I don't know if I want to be with the SAME MAN until DEATH.
I don't know if I would enjoy waking up to, having sex with or even being in the PRESENCE of the SAME PERSON EVERYDAY for the rest of my life!
Now, I know society says that it should be every woman's dream to meet Mr. Right and live Happily Ever After! BUT, it's not! There are women in this world who are happy with having free reign with dating.....who are happy with being able to interchange men......who are just happy with just BEING.
Who says that MARRIAGE is everyone's HAPPILY EVER AFTER? I sure am not sure if it's MINE!
As I think of MARRIAGE and LIFE.......I simply have to ask.....
Who makes up the social rules that tend to govern our thought process and our path in life?
Who makes up the social rules that tend to govern our thought process and our path in life?
WHO SAYS THAT MARRIAGE IS FOR EVERYONE?
WHO?
You know....it's amazing and often comical how biased society can be. Why is it acceptable and NORMAL for a man to be in his late 30's, be successful, be happy and still be SINGLE?
HOWEVER.....if a woman is in her late 30's, smart, attractive, happy, not CRAZY and is still SINGLE.....THERE MUST BE SOMETHING WRONG WITH HER?
PLEASE!
Who makes these crazy ass biased rules.......Who's standards are these?
Let me tell you what's CRAZY or what's not NORMAL!
It's CRAZY for a woman to marry a man just because she thinks society is going to label her as not being normal if she decides to stay single, successful and happy.
It's CRAZY for people to expect you to settle down with a man just because you are almost out of your child bearing years.
It's CRAZY to expect to have to get married, explain your every move and ask for permission to do things that you've been doing independently your whole grown life.
It's CRAZY for a man to be pressured into marrying a woman who he knows he's not happy with just because of the length of time they've been dating exceeds the acceptable range by SOCIETY!
You know what's even CRAZIER....it's absolutely CRAZY to marry a man who you know isn't going to be faithful to you (because he hasn't been faithful to you while you were dating him), who really doesn't want to marry you....who pretty much really is just marrying you because you're the SAFE catch.....
Now....these are things that are crazy and not normal to ME!
Before I end.....let me just say......SURE, I would get married if I met that man who's a liberal thinker as myself. Someone who understands my need for equality and security. Someone who knows the typical expectations that society has placed on the title "WIFE" may not be the ones that I hold dear to my heart or can even meet! Under certain conditions and the RIGHT situation.......Yes, Yes, and Yes I would walk down that aisle and say, "TIL DEATH US DO PART!" But only when it's RIGHT for ME! Not because it's what society says I should do!
A dear friend of mine recently told me.....You have to chose to be HAPPY or chose to be RIGHT!
At first I didn't get it and I asked her to explain, but after a few days of thinking it through and really meditating on it.........I get it! But I also get the fact that I chose PEACE over anything.
I grew up in a two parent household where MARRIAGE wasn't always that GREAT and it wasn't always horrible. But it did give me a perspective as to what it would be for ME!
If my choosing PEACE means I will be single for the remainder of my days.....that's what I will have to deal with.
But I do know that I refuse to compromise, I refuse to waiver, I refuse to be anything other than what GOD created me to be. I can't DO what SOCIETY expects me to do simply because it's looked at as NORMAL. If that means that people will continue to ask me, "Why aren't you married? What's wrong with you?".......Well, I just have to keep answering....."I'm good! I'm happy! The question should be...wthat in he hell is wrong with you?"
"TIL DEATH US DO PART........TIL DEATH US DO PART.......TIL DEATH US DO PART.........."
WOW! That is a VERY LONG TIME!
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