"BLACK ATHLETES....WHITE WOMEN"

I have asked myself this question a million times....Why do most BLACK ATHLETES chose to marry or date WHITE women?


Is it because they feel it's what society expects of them? Is it because WHITE women are more beautiful than BLACK women? Is it the submissive nature of most WHITE women ?

WHAT IN THE HELL IS IT?


I'm not sure....and it's a conversation that I've had with my girlfriends and guy friends and we all have our personal opinion. It's just so hard to understand the rational behind the answer when our strong black athletic men are raised by STRONG BLACK women, in BLACK communities, attending BLACK churches and BLACK schools.

How is it possible that you would go out and find a mate that looks nothing like, talks nothing like, acts nothing like what you've been so familiar with for most of your life? Or, is that the reasoning? Are black athletes trying to escape the past? Are they trying to create new memories with what society has said is pure and right?


We all see how our athletes are sought after and prodded at like cattle in a herd.....waiting for their number to be called during the draft. Or, waiting for the once in a lifetime contract. Early on....they are sent to WHITE universities, where there are WHITE women, with WHITE coaches and new WHITE mentors who try to groom them for the professional athletic life. And as long as the going is good......they're accepted and welcomed into the WHITE families without hesitation.

BUT you better believe that if that same 6'9" black male was an ex-con...BECKY and REBECCA's DAD wouldn't have 2 words to say to him. As a matter of fact, he would give her an ultimatum....GET RID OF HIM or YOU'RE OUT OF THE WILL!


Recently a well known news program aired a special on women who seek out athletes. The report focused on athletes and the women they date and marry. They showed various white women who take their college fund to travel to places that are frequented by athletes with the sole intention of becoming a BASKETBALL, BASEBALL or FOOTBALL wife.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong for going for what you know....However, I have a problem with black men who solely date WHITE women.....and those who don't recognize or acknowledge the fact that this woman WOULD NOT have anything to do with him IF he didn't have a multi-million dollar contract.


So, I ask, "Is it the circumstances of the athletes that cause them to make certain decisions when choosing a mate?" "Or, are these the only available women that they're exposed to during their professional career?"

It can't possibly be!

I honestly couldn't and can't figure it out. It's something that continues to circle my thought process. It really baffles me as I look and listen to my black athletes praise their black mothers and grandmothers who have done such an amazing job to get them to where they are now....But then they go and marry Becky, Sarah and Elizabeth.....forgetting about poor Nicole, Tonya and Monique who helped them through high school or even kicked it with them when they first made it to college.

Please know that it's duly noted and understood that at some point these black athletes begin to socialize with diverse groups and the circle in which they travel change. However, there are black women in every part of this world....in every shade and color.....in every size and shape. So, I refuse to believe that Kobe Bryant, Terrell Owens, Reggie Bush, Michael Strahan, Tiger Woods, Richard Jefferson, Bradon Jacobs, Lamar Odom, or David Garrad, couldn't possibly find a black woman that could and would support them through their professional career.

The social phenomena of black athletes and white women has reached epidemic proportions. Whether or not it's true that the majority of black athletes are married to white women.....who really knows. BUT it is what mainstream America has chosen to present to us. Black athletes who marry and only date white women has been a hot topic amongst black women for years and it will continue to be.

I believe that everyone deserves to find happiness with a mate despite the color of their skin. HOWEVER, I also believe that where there's smoke......there's a fire.

So, again I ask......WHY do BLACK ATHLETES chose to marry and date WHITE WOMEN rather than BLACK WOMEN? Better yet.....why do SUCCESSFUL BLACK MEN chose to MARRY AND DATE WHITE WOMEN as oppose to BLACK WOMEN? I don't know......maybe I'll call Reggie, Koby or Tiger and ask them.

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Sexing With a PURPOSE

I remember years ago asking my older brother if I could borrow some money. He calmly said, "You need some money huh? Well, open your legs." Knowing how much my brother likes to play, I relunctantly did it. "Now, look down. Do you have a USSY?" With eyebrows raised, I answered, "YES!" He asked, "You're not celibate are you?" Falling further into his trap I answered, "NO! But what does that have to do with you loaning me money?" And of course he came back with one better, "Well, as far as I see it. As long as you have an USSY and you're using it...you should never be borrowing money from me."

Now, of course I was pissed at him for not giving me the money. But, after years of sexing without a purpose, it all began to make sense. My brother was telling me what so many people say is wrong and shameful...He was simply saying that WOMEN who are sexing men on the regular need to make sure that those men understand that they have to PAY to PLAY!

YES! YES! YES! I said it....If you are sexing with a man on the regular...He needs to understand that NOTHING in life is FREE.

When he goes to movies...He pays! When he plays golf...He pays! When he goes to football games...he pays! When he was out clubbing and met you...He paid! So, what's wrong with him paying for the enjoyment and pleasure that he's receiving from you?

If we look at women like:
Jennifer Lopez who sexed P-Diddy with a purpose....
Kimora Simmons who sexed Russell Simmons with a purpose....
Or...KIM KARDASHIAN who's been sexing EVERYBODY WITH a PURPOSE

BUT NO...Society says that we should be independent and do it all ourselves. I say different.

We all know that as women are so willing to give of ourselves so willingly for the sake of LOVE, COMFORT, or for the sake of being able to say that we have a MAN...no matter how sorry he may or may not be. Or better yet....we SEX more often than none for the sake of POSSIBILITY! It's possible that he will marry me. Or, it's possible that we will be an official couple. BUT in the mean time....bills are due and the fridge is empty.

Women, how many times have you slept with a man and shortly afterwards the relationship ended? And what do you have to show for it....NOTHING! Or, how many times did he say that sex wasn't important to him, but as soon as you gave it to him...things quickly changed? Hmmmmm....EXACTLY!

As HARSCH at it may sound....as women we need to be upfront and honest and let it be known to the men who we are sexing....."There's a fee to ride this Merry-Go-Round! Yes, you may get 1 free ride, but please understand that repetitive rides are going to COST YOU!"

Now, I know that some of you who are reading this, are shaking your head and are probably saying..."This is mere prostitution, whoring or just down right slutty."
WELL call it what you want...

BUT...If you ask me....SEXING without a PURPOSE is even worst.

Through time and maturity I've learned that GROWN MEN who honestly CARE and have a WOMAN'S best interest at heart; UNDERSTANDS that he has RESPONSIBILITIES.

A REAL MAN would make sure that the WOMAN who's BED he's frequenting is TAKEN CARE OF.

Now, I'm not saying that a man should pay all of a woman's bills are completely take care of her. But I am saying that if there's a need and he can supply it....It shouldn't be a question about him doing it.

MEN...Be HONEST! (I know it's hard but let's try to do it) You know and I know that you are DEAD ASS WRONG if you've slept with a woman repetitively and have never even asked her if she needs gas money...Nonetheless, if she has food in the fridge or money in her wallet.

WOMEN... BE REAL! If you don't set a standard upfront...He won't do it in the end. Why are you using your grocery to cook him meals? Why are you driving your car to his house, using up your gas to give your body to him? WHY? WHY are we selling ourselves short?

Well, ask yourself.....ARE YOU SEXING WITH OR WITHOUT A PURPOSE? And if it's WITHOUT A PURPOSE....it's time for some adjustments!

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