My FAITH is in GOD...not MAN

If you watch TV, have the internet, listen to the radio or even exist in this world; you've heard about the lawsuit that has been filed against prominent minister, Bishop Eddie L. Long. I've heard so many people make various comments and voice their opinion as to whether he is or isn't innocent. However, one thing that was said to me that was more profound that anything else. And I quote, "This lawsuit is going to really mess people up. So many people are going to lose their faith and leave church behind this."

When I heard this statement, I had to be clear. I wanted to make sure she was saying what I thought she was saying. Was she saying that people would turn their back on GOD because of the actions of a man?

YES! Yes, this is what she was saying and exactly what she meant.

It's sad to say that we as people, Christians, children of God, people of faith or whatever title you may have given yourself, should be ashamed. We should be ashamed and embarrassed. We have placed Ministers, Reverends, Pastors, and Bishops on pedestals and allowed them to be the focus of our faith. We worship them as if they're God. And we treat them as if they're celebrities. We've allowed them to be untouchable

Ministers, Reverends, Pastors and Bishops are mere vessels. Vessels that GOD has chosen to teach his children and deliver his word.

It is truly unfortunate and horrible the ordeal that Bishop Long, his family and congregation are presently faced with. However, GOD is still GOD! He is non-wavering, forgiving, and sovereign. The actions of a man should never determine a person's faith. It shouldn't determine you knowing that GOD is who and what he says he is. It shouldn't hinder you from believing, praising and acknowledging GOD, because he is just that GOD, ALMIGHTY, JEHOVAH!

This is a time for us to remember and reflect on the promises of GOD. If he said it....so it shall be!

SELAH

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"Are YOU and THIS what I really WANT?"

Being single, for the most part, is a choice for most. However, there are some that for some reason or another; can't seem to find a mate. I on the other hand, am "ONE" of many who has made a conscious decision to stay single until "I" meet that one person that "I" want to be with.

People say to me quite often, "I can't believe you aren't married." Or, "I can't believe you don't have a man in your life." Well, being married and having a man in my life isn't that hard to do. For the most part it's quite simple. However, dating and marrying that one person that I want is something quite different.

Over the years, I've seen so many people meet people, date people and go on to marry people that they KNEW in the beginning wasn't the person for them. They knew that person wasn't what they wanted..... BUT, they did it anyway.

WHY?

They did it for....MATERIAL STUFF! MONEY! SECURITY! OUT OF FEAR! OBLIGATION!......

These are all reasons why we all do things. But, is sacrificing your happiness worth being with someone who you don't even want? Is having a large bank account enough to lay next to a person that you despise? Is being able to travel and spend money when and where you want worth you puttin up with BS that you don't deserve? Is it worth you laying next to a person that you can't stand to touch you just to be able to say you bought a $700 GUCCI purse?
IS IT?
Is living in a 5 plus bedroom house and driving a 745 BMW worth being beaten or called out your name when the doors are closed but having to smile in front of the church on Sunday mornings?

NO, IT ISN'T!...

Society has us all screwed up and we're all trying to live and be like the Joneses. We compromise on our morals and values just to look the part. And we settle and endure to pretend to be the part. But mostly, we give up being who we are and sacrifice what we want; when we shouldn't have to.

Personally, I believe everyone deserves happiness. Everyone deserves to be loved and wanted; and that love doesn't have to come at the expense of sacrificing happiness.

So, that brings me to the question....Are you where you are, with who you're with, doing what you do because it's what YOU WANT? Or, is it because of MATERIAL STUFF, MONEY, SECURITY, OUT OF FEAR or OBLIGATION?

Ask yourself....Why am I with you? Are you what I want? Is this where I need to be?

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"Is it really STEALING if he wants to be STOLEN?"

Can you STEAL someone....that obviously wants to be STOLEN?

I've asked myself this question time and time again. We've all read the headlines about Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats, Fantasia and Antwaun Cook, and now Monica and Shannon Brown.

Every time you hear a report...it's always the WOMAN who did the stealing. The woman is always a HOME WRECKER, SLUT, HO or just LOW DOWN!

WHY? Why is the woman the BAD GUY?

Why does she have to be all of these things when obviously the man was open to whatever went down?

At what point does the responsibility fall on the man who stood before God and took a VOW to love, honor and cherish til death do part?

Never....???

In all three cases....the women were drug through the mud and talked about horribly. BUT, nothing has been said about the MEN! At the end of the day....it was ultimately the man's responsibility to do the right thing.

It's been said...If you feed a stray dog long enough...he'll make your home his home.

So, did Alicia, Fantasia and Monica really steal these men away from their mates? Or, did they just feed 3 stray dogs that were looking for a home with a welcome mat that said....

WELCOME HOME.....COME IN!

Personally, I don't believe you can steal anyone from anybody. If a person wants to stay...they'll stay. And if they want to go....please believe, they'll leave!

To answer the question...No! You can't steal, take, or pry a person from another human being ... they have to being a willing participant in the activities....


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Putting him on the couch...does it really work? Or, will it backfire?

Most women recognize the POWER that lies within the pocketbook, cookie snatch, Va-JJ, or whatever name you might have for it. As we recognize these powers, do we as women abuse these powers?

As a single woman, meaning not being in a committed relationship or marriage; I understand that it's totally my decision as to whether I want to have sex or not. But when you're MARRIED or co-habitating with someone, does that choice change?

I had an indepth conversation with a friend recently, who's married. We were discussing sex and the importance of keeping sex alive in a relationship. Well, she went on to say that she hadn't had sex with her husband in almost 2 months because she was upset with him. And she wanted to make sure he understood just how upset she was.

HUH? Are you kidding me!

Did you just say "TWO" months? Now, I know how hard it can be at night when I get the urge and I sleep alone. BUT getting the urge and you can't have it and you're sleeping with someone. Hmmmm.....Not gonna happen!

So, I asked, "Do you actually think that's going to work? What do you plan to accomplish by holding out? And do you really think what you're doing is wise?"

She quickly reminded me how faithful her husband is, how he wouldn't dare cheat on her and how good her VA-JJ is.

Well, my friend...I'm sorry to inform you BUT my VA-JJ is delicious as well (or so I've been told) and so are so many other women VA-JJ but I can assure you, we've all been cheated on.

So, I ask.....

MEN! Could being placed on VA-JJ punishment push you into having an affair? Does it make you angry? Does, it make you resent your partner?

WOMEN! Do you think putting your mate on VA-JJ punishment is effective? Do you really think he's going to be faithful to you during these long periods of time? What do you think you're accomplishing?

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