DOWN LOW.......or just.....LOW DOWN?

Are you DOWN LOW or just LOW DOWN?

Down Low....is a term that has been endeared by black men who are closet homosexuals portraying themselves as heterosexual males. It's the description that society has given to these men....mainly black men who secretly have sex with men while maintain open relationships with women. It's a term that has been used to describe gay men who are afraid and ashamed to be themselves in public and hide behind relationships with supposedly innocent unsuspecting women....while jeopardizing the lives of themselves and the lives of these women.

Society has been desensitized to the seriousness of DOWN LOW men. The term has become an everyday cliche'. And is often used as a term of endearment for closet gay males.

Although there has been no data to confirm the correlation between DOWN LOW men and the widespread of HIV and AIDS; minority women, men, children are being affected disproportionately....which leads to the question....How are DOWN LOW men affecting our society? Affecting our communities? Affecting our families? What are we going to do about it as a community and as a family?

Are we allowing these men to walk around labeling themselves as METRO SEXUAL.....SLIGHTLY FEMININE or just brushing the way they are by saying...."Oh, his dad or his uncle acted like that." Does that make it right? NO...it doesn't!

Pretending to be a straight male when you knowingly are attracted to and are having sexual relations with a person of the same sex and not making it a known fact to your partner is WRONG! It's WRONG on all LEVELS with no excuses to be made.

Not allowing your partner to make a decision as to whether they want to be involved with someone who's gay is selfish and shameful!

With all things being considered....should the blame be totally placed on the DOWN LOW MAN? Or, should the women that are involved bare some of this burden? How many times have you been around a married or committed man that is so obviously gay, and you ask yourself, "Is this woman blind or just plain stupid?" You have to ask, "Does she really not know that he's gay.....or is she just in denial?"

So many of us looked at Al Reynolds and Jonathan Plummer (Star Jones and Terry McMillan's ex husbands) and asked ourselves, "How in the hell did they not know these men were gay?" It was so obvious to us when we saw them....but yet both Star and Terry adamantly denied having a clue or inkling that their husbands were gay. Hmmmmmm.....I beg to differ!

Well, how many of us need to evaluate the men in our lives?

How many times have you seen your man look at another man just a little longer than what he should have?

How many times has your man told you he's hanging out with Kevin.....and he's always hanging out with Kevin when he should be hanging out with you?

How many times has your man preferred anal sex as oppose to having sex the way God truly intended it to be?

How many weekends or nights has your man gone on a "boy's trip" with the same boy(s) that he hangs with on the regular?

Really!

There are so many signs that WE as women overlook and just brush off. BUT then we act surprised when we find out that our man not only prefers women but men as well.......And all of this could've been avoided if we had acknowledged the elephant that was in the room in the beginning.

I say...if there's smoke......somewhere there has to be a fire! Don't be Hoodwinked....Bamboozled.... or Blinded! Demand the TRUTH! It's time out for us making excuses for these LOW DOWN COWARDLY MEN!

Honestly, there's no such thing as being DOWN LOW! There's just LOW DOWN MEN who are LIVING LIES and aren't fooling anyone but themselves. If you have sex with another man....you're not confused, you're not experimenting, you're not going through a PHASE....YOU ARE GAY.

It doesn't matter if you're the recipient or the giver.....GAY IS GAY! No matter how you toss the salad....it's all the same.

So, don't fool yourself......YOU'RE NOT DOWN LOW....YOU'RE SIMPLY JUST LOW DOWN!

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