Most women recognize the POWER that lies within the pocketbook, cookie snatch, Va-JJ, or whatever name you might have for it. As we recognize these powers, do we as women abuse these powers?
As a single woman, meaning not being in a committed relationship or marriage; I understand that it's totally my decision as to whether I want to have sex or not. But when you're MARRIED or co-habitating with someone, does that choice change?
I had an indepth conversation with a friend recently, who's married. We were discussing sex and the importance of keeping sex alive in a relationship. Well, she went on to say that she hadn't had sex with her husband in almost 2 months because she was upset with him. And she wanted to make sure he understood just how upset she was.
HUH? Are you kidding me!
Did you just say "TWO" months? Now, I know how hard it can be at night when I get the urge and I sleep alone. BUT getting the urge and you can't have it and you're sleeping with someone. Hmmmm.....Not gonna happen!
So, I asked, "Do you actually think that's going to work? What do you plan to accomplish by holding out? And do you really think what you're doing is wise?"
She quickly reminded me how faithful her husband is, how he wouldn't dare cheat on her and how good her VA-JJ is.
Well, my friend...I'm sorry to inform you BUT my VA-JJ is delicious as well (or so I've been told) and so are so many other women VA-JJ but I can assure you, we've all been cheated on.
So, I ask.....
MEN! Could being placed on VA-JJ punishment push you into having an affair? Does it make you angry? Does, it make you resent your partner?
WOMEN! Do you think putting your mate on VA-JJ punishment is effective? Do you really think he's going to be faithful to you during these long periods of time? What do you think you're accomplishing?
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not married so can't speak only voice my opinion which is this what you want do for him someone else will so holding shouldn't be an option just because ur angry especially for 2 months.
ReplyDeleteI personally don't think It works. I'm divorced and I can honestly say that my ex-wife never resorted to this kind of cruel and unusual punishment , because eventhough It would have hurt me ..it would have hurt her just as much. What can I say ? I guess if the man likes it more than she does, then she can punish him by not giving it to him, but if the woman likes it just as much or more than the man who's really going without? Would I cheat if I was in a situation like this? Naw....I would take my punishment like a man...for a couple of days ...but after that umma have to hit her with a few of my....little tricks I used before we got married...."UM JUST SAYN"
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