Being single, for the most part, is a choice for most. However, there are some that for some reason or another; can't seem to find a mate. I on the other hand, am "ONE" of many who has made a conscious decision to stay single until "I" meet that one person that "I" want to be with.
People say to me quite often, "I can't believe you aren't married." Or, "I can't believe you don't have a man in your life." Well, being married and having a man in my life isn't that hard to do. For the most part it's quite simple. However, dating and marrying that one person that I want is something quite different.
Over the years, I've seen so many people meet people, date people and go on to marry people that they KNEW in the beginning wasn't the person for them. They knew that person wasn't what they wanted..... BUT, they did it anyway.
WHY?
They did it for....MATERIAL STUFF! MONEY! SECURITY! OUT OF FEAR! OBLIGATION!......
These are all reasons why we all do things. But, is sacrificing your happiness worth being with someone who you don't even want? Is having a large bank account enough to lay next to a person that you despise? Is being able to travel and spend money when and where you want worth you puttin up with BS that you don't deserve? Is it worth you laying next to a person that you can't stand to touch you just to be able to say you bought a $700 GUCCI purse?
IS IT?
Is living in a 5 plus bedroom house and driving a 745 BMW worth being beaten or called out your name when the doors are closed but having to smile in front of the church on Sunday mornings?
NO, IT ISN'T!...
Society has us all screwed up and we're all trying to live and be like the Joneses. We compromise on our morals and values just to look the part. And we settle and endure to pretend to be the part. But mostly, we give up being who we are and sacrifice what we want; when we shouldn't have to.
Personally, I believe everyone deserves happiness. Everyone deserves to be loved and wanted; and that love doesn't have to come at the expense of sacrificing happiness.
So, that brings me to the question....Are you where you are, with who you're with, doing what you do because it's what YOU WANT? Or, is it because of MATERIAL STUFF, MONEY, SECURITY, OUT OF FEAR or OBLIGATION?
Ask yourself....Why am I with you? Are you what I want? Is this where I need to be?
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Some people are with the person they are with out of committment. They realize that sometimes there are God-given responsibilities that must be carried out. What you want or who you want at this moment will likely change over the weeks or months or years. Hopping from person to person is useless. The grass usually appears greener on the other side. Also, if you wait for the perfect person, you'll never find them. Even if you think you have, give it enough time and they will show you how imperfect they are. The key is how you commit to working through your imperfect days and ways. If you're praying and asking God to lead you and committment is the choice you make, then I think that's ok. Our grandparents and great-grandparents can speak on committment. They knew about it, respected the family unit, and handled responsibility when it came their way. I think we can all learn a lesson or two from them.
ReplyDeleteI must agree with anonymous. We have destroyed the foundation of our culture/families believing and living by the principles you have stated. At what point do we act as responsible adults and stop the casual dating which turn to casual sex and end in unwanted pregnancies. We have men and women walking around not having a clue of the number of sex partners they have had over the years and still saying they haven't found the right person. The truth is when the right person come along you probably won’t recognize him/her, because we have infested our souls with so much trash. Today we can’t tell the difference between the saved and the unsaved.
ReplyDeleteLife is not about what YOU GET out of it. It’s about what You Give to it! Most people don’t have a clue about what they want not to mention what they can offer. Marriage is a SACRED DAILY TASK; one must be willing to work each and everyday. Besides what makes us so special that we can have all these expectations with the baggage we carry.